This paper outlines Javanese men’s perceptions, opinions and attitudes towards domestic violence. Sixteen Javanese men were invited to talk about domestic violence in group discussions, as part of a qualitative research conducted in the Southern part of Central Java. The response collected had different emphasis as given by the male speakers but all engaged in a perspective that reflects their dominant position in the family. While admitting that some men behave badly, the Javanese participants had greater concern about women’s behaviours, seeing that as provocations to violence. Women’s attitudes that were perceived to be proposing challenge to men’s authority appeared to be the most common form of provocation. The analysis examines the men’s perspective in relation to dominant discourse of masculinity that preserve men’s identity and identification with power in marital relationship.